tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19060161.post2989043794750866933..comments2023-10-09T08:01:29.924-05:00Comments on Sorting The Pieces: Yet another entry on griefCynthiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11641264346663533706noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19060161.post-29492299106016407532008-11-01T10:58:00.000-05:002008-11-01T10:58:00.000-05:00a widowed friend of mine has told me that she has ...a widowed friend of mine has told me that she has seen other widows move tooo fast and then regret decisions they make. Slow and steady is a good thingAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04176575455349872280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19060161.post-9639797837828012322008-10-28T15:39:00.000-05:002008-10-28T15:39:00.000-05:00I don't hear self pity in this entry at all. I he...I don't hear self pity in this entry at all. I hear introspection. I think when we're grieving, there has to be a lot of that in order to recover (I don't use the word "heal").<BR/><BR/>I've learned to honor the baby steps. They are better than no steps at all. These losses have lifelong impact. The transitions can't happen all at once and they may be quite subtle. But, they lead to knowing we can continue to live...even enjoy life in spite of the impact. That's recovery.sunflowerkat https://www.blogger.com/profile/11643564072168293568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19060161.post-59847694515862960422008-10-28T08:25:00.000-05:002008-10-28T08:25:00.000-05:00Grief definitely has its own timetable for each of...Grief definitely has its own timetable for each of us.<BR/>And the healing is so - so what? circular? upside down? one step forward and ten back? <BR/><BR/>If it is any help, my father remarried 11 months after the second time he was widowed. And my friend here who lost her husband about the same time you did has probably not even considered the word "date." <BR/><BR/>It's what it is. And many people are grateful for your words about it.Gannet Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16374279595560691174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19060161.post-13953704924760025432008-10-27T22:22:00.000-05:002008-10-27T22:22:00.000-05:00Don't make the mistake of trying to force yourself...Don't make the mistake of trying to force yourself to move ahead faster than you really can. I've found from experience that this kind of progress is not really progress, because you end up sidestepping things that you should really deal with. And they always come back to haunt you...Lisa :-]https://www.blogger.com/profile/02237889098638895390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19060161.post-47904460910183115462008-10-27T18:56:00.000-05:002008-10-27T18:56:00.000-05:00Chris, this may be the most moving comment I've ev...Chris, this may be the most moving comment I've ever received. Writing my way through this mourning has pushed me, but I've hoped that it would be useful for someone other than myself. Thank you.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641264346663533706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19060161.post-17399493646413403602008-10-27T18:35:00.000-05:002008-10-27T18:35:00.000-05:00I no longer feel like I'm flailing, doing anything...I no longer feel like I'm flailing, doing anything just to be doing something, but I'm definitely not clear on what I should be doing.<BR/><BR/>Based on that sentence alone, I'd definitely say you are making progress, growing, and yes, even healing.<BR/><BR/>Reading through your thoughts on grief might be unnerving and scary for some people. But for me, I feel like I need to read it to be supportive, but from a selfish standpoint, I am trying learn from you.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14861482393432330011noreply@blogger.com